Tashera Simmons needs a tap on the shoulder and a good long sister to sister hug from me…or from anyone that feels sorry for her. Her estranged husband of many years, Earl Simmons, better known as rapper DMX, has really done an emotional number on her to say the least.
Couples Therapy features this duo among a few other dysfunctional couples as they stay in a retreat to attend daily sessions of emotional rehabilitation.
DMX unquestionably needs relationship therapy—plus more.
Now, let me be clear…I love DMX. His music has
always been deeply rooted in his past so I feel him when I listen to his music.
However, thanks to his past, DMX is far from being a great husband. Heck, he’s
far from being a decent husband. He blatantly told Tashera on national TV in a
moment of rage that he never wanted to marry (her) in the first place. Whoa.That’s very upsetting and devastating news to hear for the first time from a man who you still love even after all the court dates and prison stints.
Tashera seems to be attached to years of emotional drama though. During DMX’s crazed moment on the show, she just sat there as if she was used to hearing him rant like that while everyone else seemed shocked. Her only excuse is “we have four kids together.”
It really saddens me to know that she is trying hard
to love this man when clearly she just needs to let go and pray for him. He has
made it clear that he will be who he is…no matter what. So that leaves her with
a husband who has no desire to be faithful or monogamous. In his defense,
though, I would like to say that DMX has deep seated issues when it comes to women
which play a major role in why he can’t emotionally grasp the idea of fidelity.
His mother basically gave him away to the streets when he was only a child, and
he lost the one woman who really cared about him. So he really has no desire to
uphold an emotional connection with any
woman. I see so much potential in DMX as a person. I know that it looks really bad right now, but hopefully this will be one reality show that has a positive ending to it. I’ll be viewing weekly to find out. I’ll keep you updated as well! J
What
do you think about DMX, Tashera, and a possible reconciliation?
I must agree with you! His wife is emotionally drained, abused and confused; however, she just can not give up on him. I'm thinking her reasoning is he has no one else that will take care of him and love him like she does.
ReplyDeleteShe definitely need to get a grasp on her own emotional state and think about the kids but I'm not an advocate for leaving someone just because they are sick & DMX is sick. He needs drug & alcohol therapy/rehab and he need psychological help before he can even imagine being the husband he should to her.
With that being said, I think she is hoping this will help him and her. Now don't get me wrong, I am not saying she should stay in an abusive relationship (thats probably why they have lived apart for 6 years) but she does need to put a deadline on how much longer she will be tied to his antics. He is the only one that can get himself some help..she cans support him but she can't help him!
I wrote about Extra Baggage on my blog (http://www.stilldatingmyspouse.com/2012/03/23/extrabaggage/) please take a look at it. It goes hand and hand of what you are talking about & we all just need to pray for both of them.
Great read as always!
Pamela
Still dating My Spouse
www.stilldatingmyspouse.com
I can understand why they are separated. At some point she had to get to just pain and anger all the time. After a while she probably didnt even know who she was anymore. Plus the kids had to have seen what was going on. And like she said most parents sacrifice themselves for their children when they are really harming both. I know there shouldn't be a time limit on healing but at what point do you say ok this isn't working and I dont think it will ever work?
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