3 Ways to Become One in a Marriage

There are some people who choose to believe that in a marriage there’s no such thing as the man and woman being completely as one; they’re constantly decreeing that no one should have to merge their lives completely into another person. Well, in Genesis 2:24, God absolutely intended for man and woman to become “one.” He decided that when he took Adam’s rib and gave it to Eve.

That’s the way God sees man and woman blended, and that’s the way we should start seeing our relationships too.

As a couple, it’s important to move toward a direction of oneness where your heart and soul is blended so much that when one of you is prospering—both of you are prospering. The same goes for when one of you is hurting; both of you shall feel that same pain and help each other heal. So, here are three ways to become one in a marriage:

1. Have compassion for the other person.

It’s easier to be more like someone when you place yourself in their shoes and attempt to walk in them. Empathize with your significant other, trying a little bit harder to understand how they feel or why they think the way they do. It’s a daily deliberate attempt because self-focus is natural, but we have to start decreasing ourselves a little to increase the other person.

2. Stop judging the other person.

I used to tussle with this. However, over the course of time I have learned that constantly judging all that you like or dislike about someone else will hinder you more than it hurts the person you’re judging. How can you have compassion for someone if you’re always looking for perfection or imperfection in them?

3. Choose to move in the same direction as the other person.

This is the most important step to becoming one with the person you love. If you’re not moving in the same direction—guess what? You must be moving in opposite directions and that’s not good at all. So, either we need to work harder towards getting on the same page or decide to stop playing tug-o-war with lives and let go. Deliberately make the choice to be selfless in moving forward with one another, or make the choice to be selfish while moving away from one another.

What ways do you think will work when trying to become one in a relationship or marriage? Do you think you and your partner are on the same page?